I don’t know a thing about you, but I’ll bet that your cheating wife is causing you more pain and stress than you’d care to admit.
But let me ask you; instead of immediately making accusations and placing blame, did you ever stop and ask yourself “where did I go wrong?”
If you haven’t…don’t worry, most men NEVER DO. What I want you to do for a moment is shift your thoughts away from all the information out there telling you to focus on “EXPOSING your cheating wife”….and shift your thinking to the following statement…
Women Don’t Leave Great Guys
Well, except in the instance of a midlife crisis.
It’s true. Why on Earth would your wife fall into the arms of another man when she has a caring, compassionate and sensitive man at home?
So again…I want you to ask yourself…“Where did I go wrong?”
Now I know you may be filled with anger and resentment thinking…“who does this guy think he is blaming ME for all this, it’s my WIFE who’s been unfaithful…NOT ME!”
I want to make it clear that I am NOT placing blame on YOU…and I am NOT placing blame on your wife either.
I need you to put your feelings aside for a moment and think about this logically…
The only reason you’re faced with a cheating wife right now is because your wife has a set of needs that you were not able to fulfill.
But that’s okay because SHE did not communicate them to you in the first place, so you had no way of knowing what you were doing wrong! Most of the infidelity experts out there seem to be focusing on “exposing your cheating wife” or catching her “red handed.”
And the more you look at these options, the more convinced you become that your cheating wife must be tracked down and confronted and using “special techniques” that will save you thousands in legal fees because you’ll have the proof you need for a legitimate divorce.
But the assumption here is that you must get a divorce; that there is no other option.
Have you ever noticed the language of most “infidelity experts” out there on the internet centers on one theme: “catch, prove, divorce”. Their premise is simple.
Your wife’s “crime” is unforgivable and her punishment will make you feel good! These “experts” make you believe that you’ll feel righteous after catching your cheating wife because SHE’S the villain and YOU’RE the good guy.
But after all the “dust settles” and everything is out in the open…reality starts to set in.
Your cheating wife has left you with not one, but TWO possible roads you can take. The first road of “exposing your cheating wife” leads to confrontation, argument and most often…divorce.
If you choose to get a divorce without knowing the REAL REASON your wife cheated on you in the first place, you’d just be glossing over the problem…instead of fixing it and preventing it from happening in the future.
And before you decide to take this road to any degree, you must first consider the REAL COST of choosing this road.
Confronting your cheating wife will most likely bring on a higher level of stress for you because you’ll come to find out that there’s a big difference between SUSPECTING your wife is cheating and actually finding solid PROOF that she’s been unfaithful.
Finding ACTUAL evidence of an affair is NEVER easy, despite what the authors say.
But here’s the big question.
Will your wife become more cooperative and interested in you if you blame and confront her (especially when she knows she’s wrong), OR if you understand why she feels the way she does?
The answer is obvious.
Confronting your cheating wife will only bring on divorce and destroy the lives of your children. But the question is; can you stomach the proof?
The other road you can take is to draw your cheating wife back into your arms instead of throwing away what the two of you have invested in over the years.
You may be thinking you don’t stand a chance to win over your cheating wife from the other man. She may have told you that she’s “in love” with the other man because HE gives her what YOU never have.
If you want to know if you still have a chance to save your marriage, read the free special report titled The Secret Path to Divorce.
What you’ll learn will do MUCH more for you than learning how to become a great “spy”. Instead, It Will Help You Realize that most women don’t leave great guys.
Why Do I Say “MOST” Women?
Every divorce is built on the same system that is created during your first ten years of childhood. For most of us, it is during this time that the future of your marriage is “locked in” or decided. Few people have the ability to buck what was injected into their brains during those first ten critical years.
Several RISK Factors
- The chaos in your parents’ marriage
- Whether or not your parents’ divorced
- The belief your parents had about divorce
- Your religious beliefs or lack thereof
- How your gender of parent treated the other
- How your parents handled conflict
All of these beliefs were determined in your first ten years. As an adult, your brain now runs a machine that keeps pushing you back there – back to a place called “normal”.
If you’re married to a woman who has seemingly become a different person overnight, you are married to what I call a “Chaos Kid”. This is a woman whose upbringing was traumatic, neglectful or chaotic. There are different degrees of neglect that create a Chaos Kid but the bottom line is this – conventional marriage advice will NOT work for Chaos Kids.
A Chaos Kid is angry about their childhood and that childhood anger is now directed at you. YOU have become the enemy.
Everything you do and say is a threat. It doesn’t matter how good or bad you’ve been as a husband, if she was married to someone else, it would be the same story.
These women, WILL leave great guys because the programming from their childhood tells them to.
The 5 Rules of a Chaos Kid Wife
- She says what she doesn’t mean and what she means, she doesn’t say.
- She believes her needs are more important than your needs.
- She sells herself as somebody she’s not.
- Any good thing you do or say, she sees as a threat.
- She wants what she can’t have and what she has, she doesn’t want.
In this hostile environment, you must become you at your best to avoid pushing her further away. Gifts, cards, kind words, notes and affection will only push her further away from you and add fuel to the fire.
ON THE OTHER HAND…
If your wife came from a good childhood home and had a great relationship with her father, what drove your wife away from you is the fact that she has needs that she doesn’t know how to communicate to you.
These needs have been unmet for a long time because you never realized what they were in the first place. Consider your cheating wife a “wakeup call” that it’s time for you to learn how to become the most desirable man in your wife’s eyes.
But first, you can start by finding out how far along you are in the Secret Path to Divorce.
So here’s what you need to do:
Step 1: Find out if there is still a chance to save your marriage by booking a marriage strategy call with me.
Step 2: If there IS still hope for your marriage, understand each other’s ultimate expectations.
Step 3: If your wife is not willing to help you save your marriage, learn how you can save your marriage WITHOUT her participation.
